The New Year is upon us. What will be your goals for the next year? Or should I say choices. I hope that you see next year as an opportunity, not as something to avoid. I see some people focusing on the “what if’s” versus the “what can I do?” We have all been there. Time is precious. Wise people have said, live as though it’s your last day. Sounds simple in theory, but not so. We all want to do the right thing. Some procrastinate, some don’t want to take a risk. Not saying that being careful is not a good thing, but not doing anything at all can be paralyzing. I think I like the saying, “Be all that you can be.” That statement allows for imperfections but celebrates your strengths and talents. I envy the young, not because I want to be young, but for the opportunities and experiences that are in store for them. As I use to say to my children, “Close your eyes and make a memory, remember this feeling and this wonderful moment in time.” Yes, there will be ups and downs, curves that take you right and left. But take hold of the great times. The exciting part of your journey is what you do along the way.
I read this article and I thought what better list of choices to use for our future resolutions. We can only meet our goals if we can first overcome and succeed at the following traits as a person. One step at a time….
Can any of these tips help with your Choices for 2017?
10 Ways to Be a Better Person–
Practice gratitude. This speaks both of the power of the mind/body connection and of gratitude. Gratitude attracts more goodness and positivity into life.
Let go of defensiveness. Save yourself and everybody time by skipping the excuses. Beware of denial, intellectualization, rationalization, projection and look at yourself and your life honestly. It is only when we let down our defensive wall that we can truly do our deeper work and grow.
Practice acceptance. Don’t be reactive. Don’t expend energy fighting or resisting what you can not change (other people, their feelings, their behaviors, etc.). Instead, empower yourself to change what you can (your thinking, your behaviors, your boundaries, etc.).
Forgive and let go of resentments. If for no other reason than for yourself, forgive to untether yourself from the negative experiences of the past.
Be authentic. Be genuine and real. Have the courage and confidence to be yourself. Do not say things that are false, even to yourself.
Reflect empathy. Let go of the need for judgement. Have the ability to put yourself in somebody else’s shoes, consider how they might feel and reflect that back to them as appropriate.
Be direct. Say what you mean and mean what you say. The truth will set you free. Talk with the person you have issue with, rather than triangulating others. Avoid passive-aggressive tactics to get your message across (not responding to emails or calls, etc.)
Be kind and compassionate. Only say things if they are kind, necessary and true. Be of service to others. Consider the needs and feelings of others before any action.
Have integrity. Do what you say you are going to do. If things have changed and you are moving in a different direction, be honest and clear with others. Be reliable and consistent. Admit when you are wrong. Apologize and make amends as needed.
Love yourself. Practice self-compassion and self-care. Understand you are exactly as you should be and are perfectly lovable as you are. Forgive yourself and understand you are human and nobody is perfect. Celebrate your life, your unique spirit and gifts. Take excellent care of yourself and surround yourself with people who love you, want the very best for you and will help you grow.
The ten ideas came from Huffington Post.com an article written by Joyce Marter; 10 Ways to Evolve and Be a Better Person.