Unexpected interruption, take a pause…

Have you ever written a document that took a great deal of time to write to find that it’s lost and you are unable to retrieve the written piece?  This just happened to me with this post. This probably happens less now with Google documents having the ability to automatically save documents. But the feeling if you experienced this, is one of loss and great frustration. You have to determine; do I try to recreate the piece?; do I start over with something new?; or do I wait to see if it is necessary? At times there isn’t a choice and a rewrite is necessary due to time constraints, and the requirement to complete the task. In my situation, I decided it was almost meant to be. I relived the feeling of having to take a moment to pause and think, so I can relay these emotions in my post.

If you can calm down enough, the incident could be looked at as an example of something that brings us a surprising benefit. Maybe what you wrote was done in haste and not thought. Did you need to rethink different options?  Or maybe learning how to not redo the same mistake is the learning in itself. Sometimes we are so quick to react that we forget to pause and reconsider our options.

Another example of hitting the pause button, is a common occurrence in today’s world of looking for a job. Due to an unexpected interruption, we can choose a path not necessarily considered. I found this with my own life, I almost took a position and then at the last moment it didn’t happen. I was so set and everything was working according to my plan. But instead at the last moment it didn’t work. I reflect on it now and it wouldn’t have been a good move for me. Other personal things happened that year and if I would have taken this job my life would have been different. So different that my current family may have not happened.

Interruptions may be a way of bringing new opportunities into our life, or new relationships, or it could be a means of providing us with information that we need. Interruptions also bring us some of our best opportunities for giving help and encouragement to others. I’m not saying that every interruption has a purpose, but it may be a space in time that allows us to be more patient with ourselves and to look at things more optimistically. Some find this pause or interruption, spiritual, or that we use a higher power that can help us through the unexpected.

I heard this unbelievable and touching story on the radio the other day. It really made me reflect about the interruptions in my life. A man who was set to take the flight of one of the planes that would hit the Twin Towers on the day of 911, got a flat tire on the way to the airport. He did not make his flight. His wife called him to see if he was okay, after hearing the number of the flight. He told her that due to the flat tire he missed his flight. His family was relieved and thankful that he was not one of the unfortunate people that were involved in the Twin Towers situation. After speaking to his son and hearing of this terrible tragedy, his father, a retired fire fighter had decided since he lived in New York, he could possibly help at the site. Sadly, he died that day in the building after one of the towers collapsed. Sadness and grief overcame the son’s family.

Time had passed. The following year there was a knock on the young couple’s door. A woman with a child were at the door. The young woman said that as soon as she was able she needed to visit the son. The young woman explained how she was very pregnant and was trapped in the Twin Towers before the buildings collapsed. An older gentleman, a retired fireman had found her and saved her life by calming her anxiety and assisting her down the many flights of stairs to get to safety. As they descended the stairs, they talked about love, life and the importance of family. She talked about how she was a single mother and her worry about the unknown. The firefighter told her how love will conquer all and how he had been blessed with such a wonderful life which included his son and family. She  felt as she had known him all her life. She stated to the couple that he was an angel sent to her. She named her newborn son after him. They thanked the woman for making this journey and for sharing the story of his father. They became close friends.

What unexpected interruptions have you had in your life? Can you welcome, embrace and empower yourself with the unexpected interruptions? Try to take a breath and pause. Who knows where it will take you.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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The Power of Kindness

 What better day than today to think of how we can be kind and loving to one another. The quotes listed below may be simple and plentiful but one gesture or thought could have an impact in someone’s life and in turn your own life. I came across this site, called marcandangel.com that focuses on becoming a better you. As I read them, I said, “Oh yes, that is so true.” I hope that you find a quote that speaks to you.

Idea: Print the quotes out. Post a quote on your frig for the week. The quotes are just a quick reminder of how to treat one another in this crazy and wonderful world we live in.The quotes help to remind us to treat people a little better than necessary, the power of kindness:

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Strength of PERSEVERANCE

Some of you may have received flowers this morning, remember the solitary flower that blooms even in the midst of trouble and sadness.

Have a Wonderful Valentine’s Day!

 

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Heart Wave

 

WAVES

Let me,
Be the waves;

The tides that will wash your troubled thoughts.

And with every crash of waves
being your happiness and joy,
Your ripples of bliss.

Pushing away crumpled parts,
Craddling your body
in warm currents.

Let me,
Be the waves.

Guiding you effortlessly
Out into the everlasting blue.

The waves, that orchestrates your heart.

 

Compliments of Shalyn posted on hellopoetry.com

 

 

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Wave of Emotions

Over the last few weeks I have experienced quite a few emotions. When you hear that phrase you automatically assume that it’s bad but it’s not necessarily. You may be having specific memories that you recall, you may find yourself very happy, or you may find yourself missing something or someone that was in your life. Looking for a poem that expresses emotions, I found this article instead which I found to be interesting. The information was very informative and I especially liked how she summarized her thoughts in the final paragraph- in dark print.

The following article was taken from :

http://embracingyourinnerself.com/2012/03/emotional-freedom/

Where are you on the wave of emotions?

 

A while ago I wrote a post about emotions, dealing with myths of what emotions are and aren’t.

I compared an emotion to a wave and I thought it would be useful to share with you how to ride the waves of emotions.

Have a look at the picture with two spirals – the one on the left is going upwards and the top emotions there are JOY, KNOWLEDGE, EMPOWERMENT, FREEDOM, LOVE and APPRECIATION. The spiral on the right hand side is going downwards and at the bottom of it are: FEAR, GRIEF, DEPRESSION, POWERLESNESS and feeling like a VICTIM.

Every day you move up and down this scale, surfing the waves without even realising it. When this happens you are left to the mercy of the wave and you don’t know when it’s going to take you – meaning once you start spiralling down you can end up at the very bottom of the scale – let’s call it ‘on the rocks’. Once you are there it takes time and effort to get back on a wave which can take you up the scale – to better emotional state.

What can you do? How can you learn to surf the waves of emotions?

1. You need to take responsibility for the way you feel. Nobody can make you feel in a certain way. It’s your choice.

2. Feel and honour the emotion which is showing up.

3. If you’re spiralling down on the emotional scale become aware of it and just STOP.

4. When you’re ready to move on you can use the following:

  • Start changing your thoughts in a way which will allow you catch a wave taking you higher. Example: You’ve seen your partner flirting with a very attractive person and you got so upset that you’ve spiralled down straight to fear and disappear thinking – ‘That’s it! He/she is going to leave me. I’m not good enough.’ etc…. From that point when you start thinking: ‘Ok, maybe that’s my fault. I don’t pay too much attention to him/her lately’. (Guilt – you’re already higher up!)… Continue… ‘OMG, he/she is so pretty. I’m so not going to let him/her take my partner away’. (Jealousy – you’re one level up again). You start getting angrier… and you’re getting ready to confront your partner. You might come up to the stage in which you start blaming you partner – after all he/she is no saint either. You get disappointed with the whole situation (at this stage you’ve moved 10 levels up!) and continue talking yourself out of the fear and disappear until you reach more neutral state of contentment. It might take you a while, just keep going upwards.
  • Even in the darkest time there are things that are still shining bright in our life. When you feel down start think of the things that are working in your life. What are you grateful for? What are you blessed with? You can write those things down. Just feel how it feels to be so privileged, blessed, lucky! What happens is gratitude/appreciation is a super wave which takes you straight to the top of the emotional scale. It is very uplifting and powerful wave to ride and the more you feel the gratitude and let your heart be filled with it the quicker you’re going to feel better.
  • Another super wave – my personal favourite – is joy. We all have things that bring us joy and that we just love doing. Create a list of things that you enjoy – they can be things like a walk in a park or a chat with a friend, dancing to favourite song, taking pictures. You know what brings you joy! Use it to change your emotional state when you’re not feeling too bright and sparkly. Be careful with adding things to the list such as buying a new outfit or something more expensive or eating a lot. Keep it simple and inexpensive. After all the best things in life are not things and are free!
  • Take a shower of pure white light, breathe out the feeling/inner state you want to let go of and breathe in the light. Instant uplift guaranteed.
  • Imagine you’re sitting in front of a music console and each button corresponds with different feeling. In your mind’s eye increase the joy, gratitude and love and decrease fear, guilt or anger.

5. Stop judging yourself for feeling in a certain way. Instead just love and accept yourself. Think and say most loving and supporting words to yourself and you’ll feel better!

6. Trust your emotions – they are just a guidance system, so use them as such and let them show you what in your life is out of alignment with the vaster You (soul/Higher Self).

7. Quit the drama – some people are truly addicted (without even realising it) to drama in their life. Oh, the entertainment it can provide! Joy is pure entertainment too without the negative side effects. Drama makes you sooo tired, so just let it go.

8. You chose each and every moment how you feel. When you’re down it’s up to you how long you’re going to stay there. You can stay there for 5 min or 5 days. The choice is yours. Just create the wave that will take you higher – now you know how.

9. Remember – this shall too pass. The wave comes and goes and even if you have been badly tumbled you’ll catch the next one and ride it with fun and like a pro!

Emotions are such a beautiful gift – they guide us and take us from one inner state to another. Life is much deeper and richer thanks to the fact we FEEL different emotions. Learn to love and embrace emotions and they’ll become your friends and guides to the most wonderful place within you. The place where the real you dwells, the place filled with joy, love, empowerment and other delicious feelings. Have fun riding the waves and playing with them!

 

 

 

 

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Winter Sunrise, Winter Sunset

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Enjoy the beauty of the season. Take in each moment! (Compliments of Bing)

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2016 Anticipation

Before you anticipate the new year don’t forget to reflect on the past year. I’ve had this article and thought it was a good one to share. (Compliments of  timemanagementninja.com. )

 It may be in your best interest to jot down some answers to these lifetime questions. Taking the time now will be an investment in your future in 2016. Good luck to you!

How Was Your Year?

Where you have been, what you accomplished, and what you might do differently. Chart a course for your future goals.

Here are 10 Questions to Review Your Year and Plan for the Next:

  1. Where did you succeed?  What are you most proud of from your achievements in the past year? What were your wins? Celebrating even the small wins is important. Remember the times you were on top of your game.
  2. What did you enjoy most?  Are you passionate about your work? Your relationships? Make sure you are enjoying the journey today. It’s important to enjoy yourself each and every day. If not, maybe it is time for a change in job, career, or relationship.
  3. Where did you fail? Looking at your own failures can be tough, but it is a necessary exercise. If you want to move forward, you must be honest about where you were not successful. Maybe it was something that you didn’t give your all, or perhaps something you said you were going to do, but didn’t.
  4. What regrets do you have?  What opportunity did you pass up? Where do you wish you had spent more time doing? These questions can be painful to answer, but they can help you remedy them in the future.
  5. What lessons did you learn?  You should always be learning. What lessons did life teach you in the past year? Understanding them will help you grow and be ready for similar situations in the future.
  6. What will you do differently? The one thing you can control is yourself. What will you do differently in the coming year? Don’t blame others for your behavior. Your attitude is a choice, make sure you choose a good one.
  7. What is the status of your goals?  Where do your goals stand? Did you reach them? Review each of your large goals and determine their status. Maybe you need to spend more effort on them, or even change them entirely. (See #10)
  8. What do you need to do more of?  What do you need to spend more time doing? What activities and goals are not getting enough of your time? Maybe it’s spending time with family. Did you leave work late each day? Or maybe it is simply being more organized.
  9. What do you need to stop doing?  What do you need to stop doing in the new year? Maybe you have a bad habit (or two). Try replacing negative behaviors with new positive ones.
  10. What are your new goals for the new year?  Reviewing and revising your goals is an important exercise. Your new goals may be entirely new, or they may be modifications of existing ones. Your goals should be adaptable and you should always be course-correcting to stay on target to success.

Looking Back, Looking Ahead

Let the end of the year be a time of reflection for what you have done. As well, make it a beginning for a new year and new endeavors. Take a moment to look back, remember, and learn. Then, take a look forward to your next great adventure.

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Being Positive

 

Experiment:

In order to better understand people’s views of the world, a researcher once placed two children, one a pessimist and the other an optimist, alone in separate rooms.

The pessimist was placed in a colorful room full of all kinds of imaginative toys…the optimist was put in a room filled with horse manure.

The first child played in the room for a little while, but soon came to the door asking to leave because the toys were boring and because they broke too easily.

Likewise, the young optimist soon came to the door…but rather than asking to leave, she asked for a shovel.

Of course, the researcher asked the child why she wanted a shovel.

She replied, “With all this manure around, I know that there must be a pony in here somewhere.”

To read more inspirational stories, you can go to inspirationalarchive.com.

Food for Thought:

While at your job, out shopping for gifts, preparing for guests, attending family gatherings; you may find yourself being rushed, impatient, disappointed, stressed and tired. STOP, take a breath and think of something that was positive that day. It may be as simple as someone holding the door for you or greeting you with a smile and saying, “Have a great day!”

What if everyone this season could take a moment and try to find the positive in the world.  It may help us in our outlook in life and how we treat one another.  I know that we can do it! 

Best wishes to you this holiday season!

Memories

During the holidays it may be a time to reflect on memories. These past few weeks I have recalled memories of past holiday celebrations and traditions. I am fortunate and blessed because a smile comes to mind.

Here are some picture memory quotes.

(Compliments of quotesnsmiles.com.)

Hint-Maybe you can send a quote with a picture to a loved one and let them know that you are thinking of them.

Take care and cherish your time with family and friends!

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Poem of Grief

This year, I experienced the feeling of death and grief over a loved one. It is a  journey of pain and sorrow and gradual moments of peace and tender reflection.  
For the people of France -In your sorrow; we wish you peace to bring you comfort, courage to face the days ahead and loving memories to hold forever in your heart. Our thoughts and prayers are with you during this difficult time. 

Seasons Of Grief

by Belinda Stotler

Shall I wither and fall like an autumn leaf,
From this deep sorrow – from this painful grief?
How can I go on or find a way to be strong?
Will I ever again enjoy life’s sweet song?

Sometimes a warm memory sheds light in the dark
And eases the pain like the song of a Meadow Lark.
Then it flits away on silent wings and I’m alone;
Hungering for more of the light it had shone.

Shall grief’s bitter cold sadness consume me,
Like a winter storm on the vast angry sea?
How can I fill the void and deep desperate need
To replant my heart with hope’s lovely seed?

Then I look at a photo of your playful smiling face
And for a moment I escape to a serene happy place;
Remembering the laughter and all you would do,
Cherishing the honest, caring, loving spirit of you.

Shall spring’s cheerful flowers bring life anew
And allow me to forget the agony of missing you?
Will spring’s burst of new life bring fresh hope
And teach my grieving soul how to cope?

Sometimes I’ll read a treasured card you had given me
And each word’s special meaning makes me see,
The precious gift of love I was fortunate to receive,
And I realize you’d never want to see me grieve.

Shall summer’s warm brilliant sun bring new light,
And free my anguished mind of its terrible plight?
Will its gentle breezes chase grief’s dark clouds away,
And show me a clear path towards a better day?

When I visit the grave where you lie in eternal peace,
I know that death and heaven brought you release;
I try to envision your joy on that shore across the sea,
And, until I join you, that’ll have to be enough for me.

For all the remaining seasons of my life on earth,
There’ll be days I’ll miss your merriment and mirth,
And sometimes I’ll sadly long for all the yesterdays;
Missing our chats and your gentle understanding ways.

Yet, the lessons of kindness and love you taught me,
And the good things in life you’ve helped me to see;
Linger as lasting gifts that comfort and will sustain,
Until I journey to that peaceful shore and see you again.

Source: http://www.familyfriendpoems.com/poem/seasons-of-grief#ixzz3rcLNtW5c
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